The most damaging thing to happen to a relationship is to lose trust. Not only is everything in the past questioned, but you have a lingering suspicion about everything else they say or do in the present. This is one of the hardest values to learn as it takes a long-term investment to build, and can be completely erased with one discovery of dishonesty. As a parent, it really hurts to feel like you cannot believe your teen. You only want what is best for them, but if you have no idea what you’re up against or what the truth is, you are making decisions based on a shifting foundation. Because it is so damaging and hurtful, it may seem like it is impossible to repair. Even a sincere effort to rebuild something broken can be destroyed if your child is in the habit of being deceptive. There is a process to restoring a healthy relationship, but it takes time and a professional can give you and your young adult the tools you need to get there.
Zion Educational Systems’ Family Advocates know it is difficult deal with a child you feel is lying to you, especially because there are usually other problems that accompany the issue. If your family is in crisis, please call for help. Family Advocates are available anytime at 866-471-8579.
Getting Back To ‘Normal’
The reason people lie is because they don’t want to deal with the consequences the truth might bring. Earning back trust is not just as easy as forcing someone to just tell the truth. If the lies are covering up their actions, the action or behavior needs to be changed so the reason for deception is also removed. When lying has worked well for your child in the past, you will need patience to see change. Zion Educational Systems has helped families create a new landscape based on learning to believe in your child. Healing is possible with compassionate, professional help. Call 866-471-8579 for more information on how your family can be freed from the past and move forward.