There are not many things that hurt a parent more than seeing their children in pain. Witnessing the fear of a son or daughter who is afraid to go to school because they are being bullied is heart wrenching. Sadly, this is a societal problem that exists on an adult level in nearly every setting; governments fighting wars, a mean boss or an abusive spouse, even sports teams try their best to “bully” their opponents. But it is most tragic when a defenseless child is traumatized. So, perhaps the better question to ask is, ‘How can I help my son keep from getting beaten up?’
Zion Educational Systems Family Advocates help parents find answers for their troubled children. Call 866-471-8579 to learn more.
Help for Parents of Bullied Children
Many children who are victimized by their peers are afraid to talk to their parents about it. They fear that the parent will jump in and try to bully the bully, which they believe will only make the problem worse. Parents need to intervene if the child is in real danger, but if not, it is important to empower the child to be able to deal with his tormentor. More often than not, a bully is really a coward that has been bullied himself. Sometimes the aggressor is trying to find an antidote to his fears. When confronted with confidence bullies often back down.
It’s important to find out if your child is creating a victim vacuum. Some people feel a need to be victimized to feel validated, just like some people need to dominate others. Clearly there may be deeper emotional issues that need to be addressed. Does your child feel bullied at home by a parent or sibling? Does he bully his siblings? The home environment will tell a great deal as to why he is getting beaten up when away from the home. Build confidence and show more love. Let him know he is safe. When possible, involve an adult authority figure at school or elsewhere, especially if they are responsible for the safety of your child. But most important, keep open and kind communications with your child. Let them know you will always be there for them.