There is always a reason for lying, but not always a reason that makes sense. Usually teens lie because they want reality to be different than it really is. It could be to their friends—pretending they did something they didn’t; or know someone they don’t; or can get something they can’t. To their parents they may develop a habit of deception because they don’t want to deal with the consequences. They lie about where they were or who they were with. When it “works” for them a couple times, they may get into a habit and cover up things they don’t need to. When you catch them lying about something that doesn’t even matter, you may wonder why. The biggest reason is because they don’t want to talk about the truth. It may be as simple as lying about running into the neighbor. You’re wondering why they would hide the truth about something of no consequence. What they are really saying is they don’t want to have a conversation with you about what she said. Most mistruths are about avoidance. Avoidance of disappointment, avoidance of work, whatever the reason, many teens always seem to find the opportunity to lie.
Zion Educational Systems’ Family Advocates know when a young adult starts avoiding the truth, it can be difficult to understand and may be symptomatic of much bigger problems. If your family is in crisis, please call for help. Family Advocates are available anytime at 866-471-8579.
Is A Parent To Blame?
Sometimes kids don’t feel “safe” enough to tell the truth. This may because of how their parents react to the truth. Are they met with anger, grounded, or will they lose privileges? This doesn’t excuse their behavior, but it is certainly something to think about. The cycle can spiral out of control with your son or daughter until there is a vicious circle. Zion Educational Systems has helped families stop the cycle of deceit and learn how to cope with the reality. Call 866-471-8579 for more information on how to open the lines of communication.