My marriage ended in July. My boy/girl twins were six years old and started first grade in the Fall. My daughter was the one who showed signs of distress. I noticed her behavior changing much more than my son’s. I was wrapped up in my own trials trying to deal with the financial setback and the endless fighting in court. It was a lot of work to step outside of myself and try to find out what was going on inside their heads. Occasionally, my son who seemed so well-adjusted, would be whiny, get angry easily, and simply not be himself. My daughter knew something was wrong, but she didn’t know what. She was more open to talking, but it didn’t seem to get anywhere. I was surprised how much was going on inside, when I could hardly tell from the outside. I don’t know that there is one way to handle how a family breaking apart affects your children. The most important thing is to listen, listen, listen and then help them find ways to heal. I enrolled my daughter in a program the school offered while she was at school. It was a group therapy for children and made a huge difference. My son didn’t feel like he needed it and I have learned that every child is different.
Zion Educational Systems’ Family Advocates know it is difficult to communicate when you feel your opinions will be met with anger. If your family is in crisis, please call for help. Family Advocates are available anytime at 866-471-8579.
No One Who Gets Married Plans For Divorce
My ex-husband was a child of divorce and swore he would never do that to his children. Unfortunately, no matter how hard we try to make things work they sometimes don’t. I did see how adversely that affected him and his ability to express his own feelings. Life has ups and downs, but not knowing how to communicate what you feel and get help if you need it will only make it worse. Zion Educational Systems has helped families work through family dysfunction and learn to talk about what they feel and need. Call 866-471-8579 for more information on how to keep your family close even in life’s wake of trials.