Parents often wonder why they didn’t see the signs of their teen child’s drug abuse until it had nearly destroyed them or ended their life. Teens learn early in life how to manipulate and lie to parents, largely because they know that if they can get mom or dad angry enough, they’ll give up and walk away. It is sometimes called teenage-child fatigue, and sadly, it works far too often. Parents are busy. Both may work outside the home, or a single parent may spend most of their time providing for the family. The last thing anyone wants to do after work is deal with negative behavioral issues.
Help for Parents Whose Children Abuse Drugs
It is much easier for a parent to give a child the benefit of doubt. After all, no one wants to believe their child could do anything wrong. And many adults believe it is just a teenager’s “nature” to avoid communicating with a grown-up. When parents think there might be a problem, the teen child is ready to lie. Admitting to drug use is the last thing an adolescent would ever do. For someone who hasn’t developed reasoning and consequential thinking skill, lying is a no-brainer. Parents, on the other hand, share the blame if they actually believe the lie. So here’s a hint: if you suspect your child is taking risks with illegal or prescription drugs, chances are your hunch is right. So press on with your questioning.
The most important thing to remember when questioning a guilty teen is to remain calm and in control of your emotions. Approach them from a place of love and concern, not fear and anger. Your child needs to feel safe in knowing you will continue to love them even if they admit to lying. When you can talk openly, find out if they are ready to do something about the choices they are making that are leading them down a dangerous path. If either of you need more help, consider contacting Zion Educational Systems, a program that supports families who are dealing with drug addiction.
Remember, doing nothing solves nothing. Communication that allows your child to feel safe and loved is where you begin the healing process. Calling Zion Educational Systems (866-471-8579) is how you complete the healing process.