Today I have the pleasure of meeting my youngest sons probation officer. He has been picked up twice for drinking, I have already spent two days crying about how I have gone wrong and now I have accepted that he is on his own path. As you can imagine a troubled teen that is having trouble with the law, is also not doing well in school. Last week, we met with his counselor to plan his last two years of high school and what units he will need to graduate from high school. My husband and I were more engaged in the meeting than he was. I felt bad for him, he seemed so lost, without any focus or goals for his future and no idea what he wanted. I can make suggestions and have consequences but until something changes for him they really don’t matter. Nothing seemed to float his boat about school, no electives or academic classes. I can alway have hope, without hope their is not much left. One example of hope at work, he recently has taken up reading books (novels), this is very new for him. He always remarked how he could not read a novel, but lately he has found books he wants to read. I would always suggest books and buy them for him, but not a page would be turned. I even gave him audio books thinking that may help. Now I try to support the positive growth, but as you can imagine with teens I am learning to stay on my side of the fence. Here is a story about a troubled teen that is graduating with honors from UC Berkeley. These stories give me hope.UC Berekley Grad goes from troubled teen to budding doctor If you read the article, throughout his trouble teen years his family did not give up on him, whether is was his parents or extended. It is the unconditional love we show that “hopefully” will carry them through.
When adolescent boys and girls are at-risk with substance abuse, or behavioral issues, behavior modification programs, as well as cognitive therapy, can result in the positive changes he or she needs for a long lasting transformation.